"Quiet! Sit down!" The screech cuts through the corridor.

I cringe as I pass Mr. Smith's maths room. His voice carries three classrooms in every direction — that particular grating pitch that puts you in mind of fingernails on a blackboard. I feel sorry for him. He's one of those tortured veterans who should have changed careers a decade ago.

Further down the hall I glance into Miss Jones' English class. Every head is down, working. A pang of jealousy. I can still hear the principal's voice from the last staff meeting: "She keeps her students engaged from bell to bell." The admiration in his tone had an admonishing edge when it reached my ears.

I turned the corner and nearly walked into a stranger. Neat, composed, quietly intelligent — he looked entirely out of place in our school. He regarded me through fine-rimmed glasses with calm, dispassionate eyes.

"Hi — Lawrence Carroll. Can I help you?"

"Dewey," he said. "John Dewey. Do you have a moment?"
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A small electric charge ran up my arm as we shook hands. John Dewey? I thought you were dead.

"No," he said pleasantly. "Not dead. I appear from time to time." He paused. "And yes — I can read minds. That's part of the arrangement when you move on from this life."

I looked around self-consciously. This man — arguably the greatest educational reformer of the twentieth century — had been dead for over sixty years. He seemed entirely unbothered by this.

"I visit schools occasionally," he said, looking down the hallway. His expression shifted. "To see how things are going." He sighed. "I had such a vision, you know. Education was so lifeless when I was alive — dull, flat, stripped of spirit and meaning. Did you know it was modelled on the Prussian military system? Designed, quite deliberately, to crush the will of young people."

My eyes widened.

"True," he said. "And I have to tell you — looking around these hallways — things don't appear to have changed as much as I'd hoped."

"John," I said carefully, "your insights into education were extraordinary." I hesitated. Were? Are? Talking to someone from the past is grammatically treacherous. He smiled, apparently used to it.

"You once wrote," I continued, "'Were all instructors to realise that the quality of mental process, not the production of correct answers, is the measure of educative growth, something hardly less than a revolution in teaching would be worked.' Do you remember that?"

His eyes lit up. "Of course. What do you make of it?"

I hesitated. He waited. I forgot, again, that he could already see the answer.

"Your theories were idealistic," I said finally. "They assumed teachers could adopt a mindset independent of the culture they were embedded in. That's a very large assumption."

He was quiet for a moment. "I did say it would take time."

"You did. But I think you underestimated what that actually requires. Philosophers are misfits by nature, John. Society doesn't accommodate them easily. Look what happened to Socrates."

He fell silent. A long silence. Then: "Where do we go from here?"

"Well," I said, "I've been introducing meditation into my classes. And I've discovered it has a profound effect on the way students learn."

"Of course it does," he said, with a flash of impatience. "We've known that since Aristotle."

I glanced nervously toward Miss Jones' room. John followed my gaze and waved it off. "This matters more than what she's doing in there. Come on." I steered him into the nearby empty staffroom.

"When I say meditation," I said, closing the door, "I don't think I mean what you mean."

He sat down. "Go on."

"Western meditation tends to be directed — toward a text, a principle, a question. It's shaped by the Greco-Roman tradition. The great philosophers created maxims and postulates designed to both liberate and guide their students' thinking."

"Naturally," he said. "How else would it work?"

"When I studied the Eastern traditions," I continued, "I found a crucial distinction. Eastern meditation isn't directed toward anything in particular. In fact, it's directed at nothing. Which is deeply disorienting for Western minds, because we're so accustomed to having an object — an idea to grasp, an insight to reach. In these traditions, even the most profound insight must eventually be released."

John leaned forward. The intensity of his attention was almost physical — I could feel warmth in my face.
"But that's precisely what the School of Scepticism attempted," he said. "The Sceptics refused to commit to any position in order to keep the mind genuinely open."

"True — but their scepticism hardened into its own dogma. The Cynics, the Stoics, the Epicureans — the same pattern. Each tradition of liberation became, in time, another set of constraints."

Something shifted in his face. The frown dissolved. His eyes widened and seemed to glow. He was getting it.
"How do your students respond?" he asked. The question was quiet, almost rhetorical. But I answered it anyway — because now it was my turn to become animated.

"John, they love it. They become genuinely calm — no small thing given what these kids carry. They show more patience with each other. They think more clearly. They start asking questions — real questions, not performed ones. It's what every teacher hopes for." I paused. "And here's what strikes me most: once they've learned to observe their own thinking and emotional responses, everything else becomes possible. It's a natural foundation for metacognition — for real emotional intelligence."

John stood up. He actually laughed — a full, delighted laugh. "Eureka. Yes. Yes. If students can do this — if teachers can do this — then everything I was trying to say about education becomes not just possible but inevitable."
I looked at this joyful apparition and felt, somewhere beneath the strangeness of the moment, that something real had been confirmed.

Introducing meditation into schools had come of age. John Dewey had just said so.

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What matters more — food or air?
Try this: exhale completely and hold your breath. Within ten seconds, every other concern evaporates. Debt, relationships, your to-do list — gone. Your nervous system has a very clear answer.
And yet, despite taking somewhere between 17,000 and 23,000 breaths today, most of us will pay attention to almost none of them.
That's worth sitting with for a moment.

The Simplest Health System You're Not Using
The research is unambiguous: conscious breathing improves cardiovascular health, lowers blood pressure, reduces cortisol levels, sharpens focus, and regulates the nervous system. It is arguably the most accessible and effective self-care tool available to human beings — and it costs nothing.
The mechanics are straightforward. Every inhale delivers oxygen to organs, tissues, and brain. Every exhale expels carbon dioxide and metabolic waste. Breathing nourishes and cleanses you, simultaneously, tens of thousands of times a day.
But here's the catch.
Under stress, breathing becomes shallow and rapid — or we hold it unconsciously altogether. This is well-documented: chronic stress activates the sympathetic nervous system, which shortens and constricts the breath, reducing oxygen delivery and impairing the body's ability to clear CO₂ efficiently. Over time, the symptoms of this pattern are familiar: anxiety, fatigue, mental fog, loss of vitality, and a general sense that something is just off.
When I ask people why they don't pay more attention to their breathing, the answers are always the same — too busy, too tired, can't be bothered. The irony is hard to miss. Those are precisely the symptoms of not breathing well.

Where to Start
When people finally seek help, doctors typically recommend exercise, better diet, and less stress. All excellent advice. All potentially overwhelming.
So start smaller. Start with your breath. You're already doing it anyway.

The Ten-Day Challenge
Once a day — just once — stop and notice how you're breathing. Don't judge it. Just observe.
Then do this:
1. Close your mouth and begin breathing through your nose. If it helps, close your eyes. This alone begins activating what physiologists call the relaxation response — a measurable shift from sympathetic to parasympathetic nervous system activity.
2. Let your belly soften. As you inhale slowly through the nose, allow the abdomen to expand first. This signals a full, diaphragmatic breath rather than the shallow chest breathing most of us default to under stress.
3. Exhale through pursed lips. Gently draw the navel back toward the spine to empty the lungs more completely. This slight resistance on the exhale helps slow the breath and maintain airway pressure — a technique used in both yoga and clinical respiratory therapy.
4. Don't rush the next inhale. When the urge to breathe arises, notice it — then wait for the second impulse before breathing in. This brief, relaxed pause between exhale and inhale is where much of the nervous system regulation happens.
5. Make each breath slightly slower and gentler than the last. Not forced. Not strained. Just progressively quieter.
By the tenth breath, you may notice the breath moving through three distinct regions: the lower lungs (belly rises as the diaphragm drops), the mid lungs (the ribcage expands), and the upper lungs (the collarbones lift slightly). This is full, three-part breathing — and for many people it's a sensation they haven't felt in years.
Yawning and sighing are common when you begin breathing more fully. That's your body responding to increased oxygen availability. It's a good sign.
If you feel lightheaded, return to normal breathing. This can occasionally happen as CO₂ levels briefly adjust — it passes quickly and is not harmful.

Ten days. Once a day. Ten breaths.
That's the whole challenge.
Over time, something shifts. People begin breathing more slowly and deeply without thinking about it. The baseline changes. And in difficult moments — a tense conversation, a wave of anxiety, a sleepless night — even one or two conscious breaths can be enough to change the trajectory of the moment.
You already have everything you need. You've been doing this since the day you were born.
You're just being invited to notice.

​For a more nuanced breath awareness experience watch the following video.

​My background in meditation spans four decades. It began not as a spiritual pursuit but as an act of love. My wife was dying of a brain tumor and used meditation to manage pain. I sat beside her — no idea what I was doing — forcing myself into lotus position for an hour at a time, ankles aching.
From that torturous beginning I learned three things: pain could mysteriously dissolve during meditation; meditation offered an inexplicable release from anxiety; and meditation had a timeless quality that ordinary experience doesn't.
Over the following thirty years I found myself in the company of remarkable teachers — Dhiravamsa, Osho Rajneesh, Teertha, H.W.L. Poonja, and Andrew Cohen. Each gave me new insight. Each contributed a piece to the puzzle I was trying to solve.
Dhiravamsa revealed that meditation is not a particular experience. On a three-day retreat in Western Australia, sitting ten hours a day, a woman excitedly described the colourful lights exploding in her mind's eye. He admonished her: she was not meditating. Then he looked at me and said quietly, "You are a good sitter." Thirty years later I understood what he meant.
Osho made clear that meditation sometimes requires radical, even cathartic action to see beyond the mind's powerful fluctuations. Teertha revealed that the commitment to meditation is a commitment to living differently. Poonja could make such light of thought that I would find myself in deep ecstatic joy in his company. Cohen distilled everything into a single insight I've never forgotten: theory before experience is meaningless; theory after experience is obvious.
Later I trained at the Kripalu School of Yoga, where I found new tools to teach what thirty years had shown me — that we are always, already meditating.

So how do I teach it?
I begin by saying: we are already meditating. We relax to experience the meditation that is already present — we don't meditate in order to induce relaxation.
This distinction matters enormously. Without it, we spend our practice seeking a preconceived state — some signal that we've done it correctly. That idea of right and wrong in meditation is a setup for ego and inauthenticity.
I use the eye of a hurricane as my central metaphor. A hurricane's winds revolve around a perfectly still centre. Without that stillness the hurricane has no integrity — it simply wouldn't exist. The closer you move toward the centre, the quieter everything becomes. That still centre is you. The whirling winds are your thoughts and emotions. They are not the problem. Witnessing them from the centre — that is meditation.
As Max Picard, the twentieth century philosopher, wrote: a person who has lost silence has lost their very structure. Meditation is the remembering of that silence. It is not something you acquire. It is something you recognise.

Seven Buoys
To help students settle into that recognition, I offer seven points of attention — buoys to return to whenever the mind drifts. I've drawn five from Kripalu's B.R.F.W.A. model and added two of my own.
P — Posture. Not rigidity, but alert comfort. A well-supported seat that allows you to remain present without fighting your body.
S — Smile. On a ten-day retreat in the Berkshires — up to seven hours of sitting a day — I discovered that a simple, slight smile was a surprisingly powerful anchor. Even a Mona Lisa smile interrupts the mind's habitual insistence that something is wrong.
B — Breath. The breath is always happening now. Notice its four parts: the inhale, the exhale, and the two quiet turning points between them. Some traditions make this the sole object of attention, and it is enough.
R — Relax. The body is the canary in the coal mine. Unconscious tension reveals where the mind is caught. Find it, breathe into it, soften it. Relax the body over time and you relax the mind.
F — Feel. Simple physical sensation is always present-tense. The weight of your feet on the floor. Your sit bones on the chair. Air moving across your skin. As sensitivity grows, subtler feelings emerge — your heartbeat, a faint inner warmth.
W — Watch (or better: Notice). Notice what you haven't yet noticed. Sounds arriving and passing. Your own breath. Then the inner sounds — thoughts, moving like birds between branches. The aim is not to stop thought. It is to notice that thought comes and goes, and that you are the one noticing.
A — Allow. Let your experience be exactly as it is, without judgment. This is both the path and the destination. All tension arises from non-acceptance. When you stop wanting your experience to be different, you taste witnessing — and that is meditation. Yoga calls this Santosha, contentment. I've found it to be my natural state: quiet, free of worry, and the source of a blissfulness that has nothing to do with circumstances.

Why start now?
Here's what I've observed over forty years, in myself and in others: the people who benefit most from meditation are not the ones who sit longest or practise most perfectly. They are the ones who show up daily — even briefly, even imperfectly.
Five minutes every morning, before the day gets its hands on you, is worth more than an occasional hour. Not because quantity doesn't matter, but because regularity builds something that intensity alone cannot: a remembered familiarity with your own stillness. The more often you return to that centre, the more readily it's available when life's winds pick up.
You don't need a cushion, a lineage, or a technique. You need only the willingness to stop — and notice that the stillness you were looking for was never actually absent.
You are already meditating. Daily practice is simply how you remember that more often.

Most people think of yoga as something that happens on a mat — stretching, breathing, perhaps finding a moment of calm in an otherwise busy life.

But the physical practice was never intended to stand alone. In the classical teachings of the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali, the physical postures are only one small part of a much larger project: the cultivation of a mature and balanced human being.

In the first part of this exploration of yoga off the mat, we looked at the Yamas — the behavioral restraints that help us recognize and limit the destructive tendencies within human nature. These practices encourage us to restrain impulses that undermine cooperation, trust, and peaceful coexistence.

But restraint alone is not enough.

If the Yamas address what we should avoid, the Niyamas describe what we should actively cultivate. They are the personal observances that strengthen the constructive side of our nature — qualities that encourage clarity, resilience, gratitude, and humility.

Together, the Yamas and Niyamas form the psychological foundation of yoga.

The Five Niyamas
(Practices of Psychological Cultivation)

1. Purity (Saucha)

Clear thinking and clear perception are becoming increasingly rare. Our mental environment is often polluted by two-dimensional influencers, media hype, AI distortions, and the constant frenzy of social media. As a result, our mental hygiene is under pressure and, for many people, increasingly fragile.

Just as the body needs exercise, clean air, nourishing food, and pure water, the mind also requires healthy inputs—ideas that inspire, perspectives that challenge us, and quiet space for reflection through meditation and contemplation.

Managing what enters your psychological world is now essential. Discernment about what you consume mentally helps nourish clarity and reduces distortion in how you perceive reality.

Practice: Read books that inspire you. Watch videos that teach useful skills. Sleep well. Stop scrolling endlessly.


2. Contentment (Santosha)

Consumption is often presented as the pathway to happiness. Satisfying every whim has become a way of life for many, and online shopping constantly feeds the appetite for instant gratification.

Yet the more we accumulate, the less satisfied we often feel. Possessions rarely extinguish the inner urge to want more.

The feeling of sufficiency already exists within each of us. It is like a quiet mountain lake—often overlooked, yet always present. Nothing needs to be added to it. When we simply sit beside it and appreciate what already exists, the restless drive to acquire begins to soften.

Suddenly, nothing more is needed.

Practice: Reflect on what you already have—people, experiences, and moments that nourish your life. Pause and quietly say thank you.


3. Discipline / Heat (Tapas)

Some commentators suggest that as digital life has expanded, tolerance for discomfort and challenge has decreased. Whether or not that claim is universally true, one thing remains clear: growth requires effort, and effort often involves discomfort.

Self-discipline means being willing to endure that discomfort. It is the price we pay for improvement.

Developing the capacity to stay present with difficulty builds psychological resilience—an ability long emphasized by stoic philosophy and many contemplative traditions.

Practice: Take a cold shower. Exercise when you don’t feel like it. Have the difficult but necessary conversation. Do the dishes. Clean your room. Small acts of discipline strengthen resilience.


4. Self-Study (Svadhyaya)

Have you ever had someone describe you in a way that shocked you?

Years ago, a girlfriend once told me that a psychic had described me as “untrustworthy.” I was deeply disturbed by the comment and rejected it outright.

Decades later, after much reflection, I came to a similar conclusion myself.

Rather than retreat from the discovery, it inspired me to look more honestly at my choices and the ways I might become more accountable.

Letting go of the idea that we are always the hero of our own story opens the door to genuine self-understanding. The image we present to the world—especially on social media—is rarely the whole picture.

Everyone carries a shadow. Acknowledging it rather than denying it can be deeply liberating.

Truth, when faced honestly, does indeed set us free.

Practice: Journaling, exploring alternative perspectives, therapy, and honest introspection.


5. Surrender to What Is (Ishvara Pranidhana)

Traditionally this observance is translated as “surrender to a higher reality.” Here, I prefer to interpret it more simply as surrendering to what is.

This shifts the focus away from metaphysics and toward psychological acceptance.

Accepting reality does not mean giving up or becoming passive. Instead, it means letting go of the stories, distortions, and emotional dramas we construct around events.

Psychologically, this allows us to come to terms with situations more quickly—even painful ones.

When events are positive, the same attitude prevents us from becoming overly attached to pride or personal ownership. We remain grounded rather than inflating the illusion that we are entirely in control.

In short, we stop using events to reinforce the fantasy that life must unfold according to our personal script.

Practice: Go into an event with the goal to remain present rather than get an outcome. After the event ask yourself these 3 questions: 1. What actually happened? 2. What did I imagine? 3. Did I abandon myself anywhere?

In summary:

The Yamas help reduce destructive tendencies.
The Niyamas help cultivate constructive ones.

They are not rigid rules or moral commandments. Instead, they function more like observations about human behavior — simple practices that gradually shape how we relate to ourselves and to others. One could argue the Ten Commandments consist of eight restraints (thou shalt not ...) and two constructive observances for the people of Israel at the time.

Seen through a modern psychological lens, they encourage the development of:

• Emotional regulation
• Impulse control
• Authenticity
• Gratitude
• Self-awareness
• Acceptance

Not surprisingly, many of these same qualities appear in contemporary approaches such as cognitive behavioral therapy, acceptance-based therapies, and positive psychology.

Yet there is an uncomfortable truth here.

Many people are drawn to yoga for its flexibility, fitness, or aesthetic appeal. But the original teachings suggest that the real practice was never about touching your toes. It was about transforming the way we live, think, and relate to the world around us.

The mat, in that sense, is only the rehearsal.

The real practice begins when we step off it.
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And perhaps the most important question is not whether these principles exist, but something far more personal:
Which of them do you naturally embody — and which do you tend to avoid?
Because that is usually where the next stage of growth is waiting.

While the yamas and niyamas point toward a wholesome way of living, they fall short in explaining why humans so often fail to live in harmony and cooperation. They don’t fully address why the human condition expresses both profound beauty and destructive tendencies—or why so few people throughout history have lived free from greed, violence, jealousy, and selfishness.

This deeper “why” is largely absent from the great traditions—the sutras, Upanishads, Torah, Quran, and Bible. At best, they offer metaphorical accounts of how our condition arose, but not a clear, evidence-based explanation of why.
To explore this question further, I recommend you read "Freedom: The End of the Human Condition" by Jeremy Griffith. It presents a detailed line of reasoning aimed at explaining the origins of the human condition—and suggests that living in alignment with the yamas and niyamas may be our natural state, once that understanding is found.

The Yamas: Ancient Restraints for a Modern Ego

​I dedicate this article to a friend of mine, Pat,  who is currently exploring the sutras.

It could be argued that the origins of yoga were not physical but psychological — disciplines designed to cultivate restraint, focus, and ultimately a life less driven by ego.

Yoga was a system for transforming how we think and therefore how we behave.
At the root of many of our reactive patterns is a deep drive to be loved and accepted. Our unrestrained, ego-driven actions are often attempts to prove our worth — a worthiness that feels buried and uncertain. (For a deeper exploration of this idea, see Freedom: The End of the Human Condition by Jeremy Griffith.)
According to Yoga Sutras of Patanjali, compiled between 200 BCE and 500 CE, there are five restraints (yamas) to regulate our impulses and five observances (niyamas) to actively cultivate.
In modern psychological language, we might call this system self-regulation paired with mindful awareness.
Below are the five restraints — and how I practice them in the 21st century.

1. Non-Violence (Ahimsa)

Emotional warning signs: impatience, anger, frustration, snappiness, guilt, withdrawal.
Despite how dramatic the word violence sounds, it exists on a spectrum — from subtle self-criticism and sarcasm, to self-sabotage and self-abandonment, to physical harm toward self or others.
Most violence begins internally.
Breath patternThe breath often becomes shallow, fast, or held. The exhale shortens. The jaw tightens. The body prepares to defend or attack.
Common thoughts

• “This shouldn’t be happening.”
• “They’re wrong.”
• “I’m such an idiot.”
• “How dare you!.”

Violence is usually a nervous system reaction before it is a moral failure.
Practice: I slow down deliberately. I lengthen the exhale. I name what’s happening. I widen perspective through self-talk. Sometimes I use Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to affirm: I am safe in this moment.
Non-violence is less about suppressing anger and more about interrupting escalation.

2. Truthfulness (Satya)

Emotional warning signs: shame, guilt, defensiveness, fantasy, denial, unworthiness.
It’s easy to see when a five-year-old distorts reality to avoid punishment. They cling to a narrative because the narrative protects their fragile sense of self.
Adults do the same — just more subtly.
Distorting reality protects reputation and identity. Seeing things clearly can feel destabilizing. It may puncture our self-image. Sometimes reality feels so deflating that fantasy and denial are preferable.
Breath patternThe breath may become tight in the chest. Sometimes we hold it unconsciously. There can be a subtle freeze — a bracing against exposure.
Common thoughts

• “If I admit this, I’ll lose respect.”
• “It’s not that bad.”
• “They don’t understand me.”
• “I’ll deal with it later.”

But when I stay with the discomfort and tell the truth — especially to myself — something steadies.
I feel less defensive. More solid. More adult. More present.
And interestingly, people tend to trust you more when you are not subtly protecting an image.
Truthfulness is not brutal honesty — it is alignment with reality.

3. Non-Stealing (Asteya)

Emotional warning signs: laziness, jealousy, envy, competitiveness, indifference.
Like violence, stealing exists on a spectrum.
It includes obvious theft — but also taking shortcuts, cutting corners, stealing time, stealing credit, stealing energy, or looking to others to fill an internal lack.
Psychologically, it reflects blurred boundaries and scarcity thinking.
For me, stealing shows up when I want the reward without the process. When I ignore small responsibilities to get what I want faster. When I look externally to soothe an internal emptiness.
Breath patternThe breath can become quick and anticipatory — almost hungry. There may be a subtle forward-leaning energy in the body.
Common thoughts

• “I deserve this.”
• “No one will notice.”
• “I need to get this before it’s gone.”
• “They have more than me.”

Stealing erodes self-respect quietly. It builds entitlement. And entitlement is the seed of greed.
Non-stealing is about sufficiency. Doing the work. Respecting boundaries — including my own.

4. Moderation (Brahmacharya)

Emotional warning signs: lust, greed, restlessness, boredom, compulsive fantasizing, depression, victimhood.
In an age of instant gratification, excess is normalized. The message is constant: More makes you better.
More status. More attention. More stimulation. More achievement.
But chasing highs often leads to crashes. Excitement is followed by exhaustion. Elation followed by dysfunction.
Breath patternThe breath can become elevated and excited when chasing stimulation — then heavy and collapsed when depleted.
Common thoughts

• “This will make me feel alive.”
• “Just one more.”
• “If I get this, I’ll finally feel okay.”
• “Nothing is happening — I need something.”

Moderation is not repression. It is intelligent channeling of energy.
I try not to attach too tightly to the highs so that the lows don’t drag me into despair. Steady energy builds resilience. Extremes destabilize it.

5. Non-Grasping (Aparigraha)

​Emotional warning signs: neediness, clutching, grandiosity, insecurity, boredom.
Hoarding is not just about objects.
We hoard status. Identity. Relationships. Knowledge. Even suffering.
We accumulate to patch a sense that something is missing.
I once repeated a mantra daily: Being free means having nothing, knowing nothing, being no one. It’s extreme — even confronting — but it exposes how tightly we identify with what we possess or perform.
Breath patternGrasping often shows up as holding the breath — a subtle clench. The body contracts. The diaphragm tightens.
Common thoughts

• “I can’t lose this.”
• “I need more.”
• “If I let go, I’ll disappear.”
• “Without this, who am I?”

Non-grasping is not indifference. It is loosening the fist.
When the breath softens and lengthens, the grip often does too.

The yamas are not moral commandments. They are psychological diagnostics.
They help us notice when ego is driving from fear rather than groundedness. And they offer a simple intervention point: awareness of breath, awareness of thought, and the choice not to escalate.

(This piece was edited with the help of AI)
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Next week: Part 2 — The Observances (Cultivating Awareness - Niyamas).

Several years ago I observed how few men attended yoga classes - at least in the circles I keep.

I wrote an article about it and have modified it below. I hope you read and appreciate it. Furthermore can you share it with a male friend?

​Driving to teach yoga one early  Fathers' Day morning I was thinking of my father (pictured opposite). He had been a sailor in the Royal Australian Navy. He died young -  61. Dad took great care of his family but did not know how to take care of himself. 
Is this true for men in general?

Fast forward to 2026 and I attend many yoga classes every week in my recent Brisbane area home. While dozens of women attend the classes only a handful of men are present. It is a mystery.

In the beginning yoga was patriarchal.

The origins of yoga are controversial.  Some say it was birthed from early rituals over 5000 years ago. Others claim it was more like one to two thousand years ago; patriarchal and boring.

Men sitting in caves or the forest for long hours every day, year after year. That was it. All the poses (asanas) were sitting poses, to develop sitting stamina for meditation. The focus of attention for the yogis was the breath. In and out, twenty thousand times per day. Apart from ascetics and monks few were  interested in this tedious affair.

*Fast forward to the nineteenth century and Madam Blavatski brought Yoga to the west and to women.  Yoga was hardly known outside of India. It was all but dead. It needed beefing up if it was to survive. Deep in the heart of India yoga exercises were added to a boy’s Physical Education curriculum. This morphing of exercises came from Western Gymnastics and Indian wrestling to become the new yoga. Hatha Yoga was reborn.

Yoga went viral over the next few decades.

Many powerful women teachers emerged in the 1970’s. Yoga became popular with women. It became synonymous with flexibility and the ideal workout for females. Men disappeared from the yoga mats into the gyms to cultivate strength, muscle definition becoming chiseled caricatures who walk around stiff and buffed.
 
Medical studies in the twenty first century verified many of the mythical benefits of yoga. Scientific studies link the elements of yoga - mind, body and breath -  to well-being, happiness, mental focus, stress management and more. I have worked in schools, colleges, with vets, lawyers, dentists, executives sharing these fruits of yoga. Even jails and the military are incorporating yoga, meditation and breathing into their routines. The impact of yoga on mental and physical health can be significant.

Who knows the changes we could see if more men embraced yoga. Perhaps it will help fathers, brothers, sons and comrades find peace and balance in their lives. Surely a salient need in these troubled times.

Here are  Five Tips for Reluctant Men who declare they cannot do yoga because they are too inflexible.
 I liken this attitude to not drinking water because you are too thirsty.

Tip 1 - Learn the art of listening to your body:   Let go of ideas such as “No pain, no gain” or “Pain is weakness leaving the body.” Approach yoga with a milder attitude and use relaxation, not force, as a way to stretch. Work in the grimace free range of motion. When you feel sensation use this as a guide line for the depth of the stretch. Too much sensation will create muscle resistance. Too little sensation is non-beneficial. Look for that Goldilocks (just right) sensation.

Tip 2 - Drop comparing: Every body is different. Some bodies are not designed to do the splits because of the shape and size of the femur bone. Women's hips are genetically designed for expansion and flexibility - men's are not. Your history (injuries, habits etc) are unique to you. You have taken decades to sculpt your body. It will take time and practice to adjust. Be patient. Whenever you come to the mat to do yoga, keep your attention on how your body feels (tip 1). Do not compare with anyone else, because no one else has your body or has lived your life. What happens on the yoga mat is between you and God. No-one else.

Tip 3 - Men designed yoga: Three thousand years ago until quite recently yoga was a patriarchal practice. It was designed by men to improve posture for meditation. The goal of yoga was to help people meditate for long periods of time without being distracted by bodily discomfort. Men crafted the art for millennia. 

Tip 4 - Yoga is more than stretching: Yoga incorporates breathing techniques (hundreds), meditation, strengthening, balance, co-ordination and range of motion. This means that some aspects of yoga will be easier for men than women. 

Tip 5 - Yoga teaches how to manage stress and seek relief from chronic pain: Two major causes of lost work productivity include stress (mental fatigue) and back pain. Our sedentary lifestyles sitting for hours at work has led physiologists to name sitting as the "new smoking.” Yoga improves back health and enhances stress management.

OK men. The ball is in your court. When are you coming back?

*(The history of yoga I have depicted above is loose at best. I apologize for any inaccuracies and suggest you read Elizabeth de Michelis’s A History of Modern Yoga (Continuum, 2004) for a fuller account.)

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​Part 1- The Spiel

G’day, legends! Fancy a bit of yoga that won’t leave you feeling like a pretzel gone wrong? I teach via zoom three cracking styles—Yin, Chair, and Vinyasa—each one tailored to different crews and their unique vibes. Although I offer a mint load of other classes in my patreon library including restorative, meditation, pranayama - Pranay what? (breathing), strength conditioning, blah-blah.

Let's dive in for a brief description of my zoom classes.

Yin is your chill-out: long, juicy holds that melt stress faster than ice cream on a barbie. Perfect if life’s got you wound tighter than a kangaroo’s spring.

Chair yoga? Bloody brilliant for anyone who reckons getting down on the floor is a young person’s game—office warriors, seniors, or folks rebuilding strength. We stay seated (or close to it) and still get the good stuff: better mobility, less creakiness, zero drama.

Peaceful Warrior - the lively one—can be flowing moves synced to your breath (like vinyasa), with plenty of options (balance, strength etc), so you’re never stuck thinking “nah, that’s not for me.”

What makes my classes different you ask? I talk straight, move at a sensible pace (no rushing into hero pose like a galah), and chuck in heaps of variations—easier versions if your body’s saying “steady on,” or spicier ones if you’re keen to level up. You’ll feel looked after, not lectured.

Jump on my Patreon platform and choose your adventure: (Prices are in US dollars so don't be shocked when different numbers in your native currency pop up) .
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$25 US/month gets you the full video library—hundreds of sessions ready whenever you are.
Go the $65/month and you score live Zoom classes too, where we can have a proper yarn in real time.

Fair dinkum, give it a burl. Your body will thank you, your mind will quieten down, and you might even crack a smile mid-downward dog. Click here for a peep at my Patreon site.

Sign up today—first week’s on me if it’s not your cuppa. Let’s get bendy, the Aussie way!


​Part 2 - The Science on the Other Side of the Myths

Benefits of Yin Yoga
Yin is the ultimate chill pill—a slow, restorative practice with long-held poses (often 3–5 minutes or more) that target deep connective tissues like ligaments, joints, and fascia.
Key benefits include:
• Deep relaxation and stress relief — Calms the nervous system, reduces anxiety, and promotes better sleep by activating the parasympathetic (“rest and digest”) response.
• Improved flexibility and joint health — Gently stretches connective tissues, increasing mobility and range of motion, especially in hips, pelvis, and spine.
• Better energy flow — Stimulates meridians (energy channels), helping release stagnant energy and emotional tension stored in the body.
• Mindfulness and emotional balance — The stillness encourages introspection, fostering greater self-awareness and calm amid a busy life.
Perfect for winding down after a hectic day or complementing more active practices.

Benefits of Chair Yoga
Chair yoga makes movement accessible without needing to get down on the floor—ideal for building strength and ease gently.
Key benefits include:
• Enhanced mobility and flexibility → Improves joint range of motion, reduces stiffness, and supports daily activities.
• Increased strength and balance → Builds core, leg, and upper body strength safely, while lowering fall risk.
• Stress reduction and better mood → Lowers blood pressure, anxiety, and inflammation through mindful breathing and gentle movement.
• Pain relief and overall well-being → Helpful for conditions like arthritis or limited mobility, boosting circulation, sleep, and feelings of relaxation.
It’s a game-changer for anyone wanting yoga’s perks with extra support.

Benefits of Peaceful Warrior and Vinyasa
Vinyasa is the flowing, breath-synced style that links movement into dynamic sequences—think energising yet mindful.
Key benefits include:
• Cardiovascular fitness and endurance — Elevates heart rate for a gentle cardio boost, improving stamina and circulation.
• Strength and muscle tone — Builds full-body power, especially in core, arms, and legs, while enhancing balance.
• Greater flexibility and mobility — Fluid transitions open hips, shoulders, and spine over time.
• Stress relief and mental clarity — Breath-movement sync promotes mindfulness, reduces stress, and boosts energy and mood.
Great for feeling invigorated and centred, with options to keep it gentle or amp it up.

Each style offers unique perks, and mixing them gives a well-rounded practice.

​Which one are you most curious to try first?

In September 2023, at the age of 68, I was diagnosed with chronic and acute gallstone induced pancreatitis.

After a lifetime of few illnesses and good health I had no idea what was about to unfold. I was not prepared mentally or spiritually for the next months and years ahead.

My first weeks in hospital ( I was in hospital for 56 days) my spirits were good despite the pain, retching and weight loss. Gradually my enthusiasm waned. I lost 20 kg (40 odd pounds), became bed ridden and my doctors said my prognosis was complicated and uncertain.

For those who suffer or have suffered from pancreatitis it feels very lonely and confusing. Leaving hospital I felt unprepared and didn't know what to do, what to eat or when to go back to ER. Neither did anybody else - friends, family - even strangers who were in the same boat.

It is now two years later. I just celebrated my 70th birthday and have started daily yoga and gym classes between pancreatic flare ups. I've regained 50% of my lost muscle mass. Even though I am far from finished with my pancreatic journey I have found contentment and nourishment with the small things.

Normal is the new fantastic.

My yoga practice feels more significant than ever. It was so easy to take things for granted when I was fit and unconcerned about my health.

Yoga has become a sanctuary from the storm of uncertainty that chronic disease brings.

I sincerely hope you can benefit from my story and the offerings on my site.

Please reach out if you ever find yourself in need of someone to listen to your journey.
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Blessings and love.

Live-stream classes via zoom are affordable, private and convenient.

Affordable: Classes start at ten for $85 (US) with no expiry. I offer a weekly Chair yoga class for free!

Private: You are in control of your privacy. Not everyone wants to be seen in class. When you zoom you can see the instructor and turn your screen off, becoming invisible. When classes are smaller or private you can keep your screen on so I can support you with more cues. (More tips on having a smooth virtual experience)

Convenient: Doing yoga from your home doesn't get much more convenient. You can even have your pets join you if you like. If a friend is around invite them to join in. No driving to venues or checking in at the desk. It's all happening in your environment. Also it is super convenient if you are on the road and want to do yoga from your hotel room or friend's place.

Classes are recorded!
I record every class and upload it to my patreon platform. These classes are available in a huge library of cataloged videos at a small monthly fee. Check out membership options here. 

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Since the pandemic has eased I have met many clients wanting to learn to meditate or improve their breathing.

The more serious clients  often ask me “how do I practice alone and keep it going?" 

While there is no silver bullet answer these 6 tips may swing it for you.

1. Find your why! There are many reasons people use these subtle practices. They can be medical, mundane (less stress or better focus) or even spiritual actualization (maturity). Whatever reason you choose it has to be so compelling you are committed to stay the course.
2. Choose a location where you can practice undisturbed - a sacred space. Add a ritual if you like (eg. light a candle, burn incense, say a prayer, record your vitals ...).
3. Choose a time of day where you feel alert and rested - dawn is a traditional time, and the one I choose, for many reasons. Choose wisely.
4. Practice everyday for 3 months for 4 minutes. Never miss a single day, no matter how you feel. This step is essential for success. Creating a routine that is attainable is the single biggest factor for behavioral change and consistency. Overcommitting your time in the beginning is a sure fired way to give up after two weeks - even if the app is awesome.
5. Use a variety of meditation styles or breathing techniques (guided practices can help you here). Find the ones that work better for you. Stop any technique that invites trauma. Either look for some alternative technique, ask a professional teacher or seek appropriate therapy. Success comes after many failures. Variety is key.
6. Keep a log of your practices. Reflect on what the practice is bringing to you. No rose colored glasses, be true to your experience. This may lead to exploring with others which can be a powerful enlightening process.

Once you get 3 months under your belt you are ready to extend the length of your practice and look for for more advanced techniques if you wish.

Meditation and breathing practices are only effective if practiced consistently over time.
Good luck and let me know if you have any questions or comments.

​I would love to hear from you.
Regards
Laurie

Recently a new client said to me these last eight months of covid have been devastating to her mental and physical health. She desperately wants to turn the momentum around and never let herself slump into this state ever again.
She had a fire in her eyes and I knew her intention was strong. After our session together she had a plan and felt confident she would succeed. She looked ten years younger than at the beginning of the class. 
What is it about yoga, meditation and breath work that inspire this change even in the midst of tough life conditions? 
How can one start to make positive lifestyle changes and follow through with confidence?
Can these practices really make you happier? More contented?

Reading this blog will not change your life. But practicing yoga, meditation and breath work consistently over time will. I guarantee it.

After doing regular meditation, yoga and Breathwork practice in different configurations over the last 35 years I have never appreciated its value like I do in these turbulent times.

Looking up social media, hearing the news and even speaking with friends is like putting your mind and emotions into a blender. Society and history are swirling like a hurricane of unprecedented events. Abiding in that swirl can be a frightening, depressing and maddening experience whatever your circumstances.

However at the center of even the deadliest hurricane there is an eye. The eye is still, calm and safe. It is a temporary refuge before and after the storm. Life gives us many storms to weather so finding and abiding in the eye of the hurricane is something to learn and practice if we are to weather these uncertain times.

Yoga, meditation and Breathwork practice take you to the eye of the hurricane. I cannot imagine my life without my practice. 

Some people call it an escape from reality. I call it an inscape to a more subtle reality. It nourishes, energizes and leaves me feeling happier, more contented and less influenced by external circumstances.

To me, drugs, tv, alcohol, depression, anxiety, drama, internet, Facebook, etc are the escapes we must be careful to not abuse.  They do not have a long lasting positive effects.

These  activities can deplete your energy and even feed the problem.

Next week I celebrate 500 days of continuous breath work practice. Each morning I spend between 25 - 60 minutes focusing on my breath. These 500 days have guided me into a deep contentment and stability through even the worst days of covid and political turmoil.

None of us escape the challenging turmoil of growing up and old.

​I love to share with you my insights and techniques that I am constantly honing. I want you to be  inspired to start or continue your practice - even on those days when you don’t want to.

If you design a practical doable practice and stay with it you will:

• become steadier under pressure, 
• sleep better, 
• feel better, 
• have more energy 
• be happier.

It is predictable - what you focus on gets bigger, what you practice makes you stronger and what you do every day  changes you.

With a new potential wave of the virus and more uncertainty ahead consider the possibility of beginning a daily practice of yoga, meditation, Breathwork or a combination and see where the journey takes you.

I can help you plan, facilitate  online classes, share  videos with you and support you when you feel stuck.

Start small, stick with it and start now!
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A colleague of mine was recently asked by a client “what is the point of yoga?” My colleague, who is not a yoga teacher, said she did not know how to respond and asked me what would I have said?

The point of yoga depends on who is doing it and why.

Yoga has a long history, and has changed significantly over the past 150 years. Depending on who is teaching, what their training has been and the nature of the class you can get almost anything you desire these days.

​Originally Yoga was experimental in nature. It was a hands on method for you to explore social constraints, moral principles, poses, breathing and meditation. Over time people observed they achieved greater tolerance levels, increased well-being, less reactivity under pressure, ability to regain composure after being pushed sideways and more. In short - they matured.

This was glorified into more mythical ideas of becoming self-actualized or enlightened. I prefer to think of maturity as the development of clarity or being able to see things as they are with less distortion.

Results were not a quick fix. They required diligence and consistency over time. In other words you had to have a burning desire to disengage from a householder’s lifestyle and often live under extreme conditions with unwavering conviction to attain the promise of freedom.  

Yoga was a system and methodology to guide you through the process. Usually the teacher was considered a guru. Yoga was still mainly a patriarchal dominant activity.

This emphasis shifted (and continues to shift faster and faster) from the beginning of the 20th Century. In the early 1900’s yoga became more prestigious as a national “sport” for India. Yoga at this time adopted gymnastic and martial-art moves and sequences. Have you ever noticed how similar chair pose is to a squat? Or sun salutations look like burpees?

Many myths were attached to yoga’s benefits and it soon became medicalized in nature. Yoga was seen to make your body more beautiful, elegant and flexible. Meditation was to relax you and drop blood pressure levels. Breath work could basically cure any malady. This appealed to women and there was a dramatic shift as more and more women embraced yoga. Many powerful women teachers emerged in the west and still dominate the yoga landscape today, to the point it is uncommon to see a class with many men.

In the 21st century it takes on a whole new level of zaniness. Yoga features goats,  kittens, beer, nudity and just about anything you can imagine. It has become a multi-billion dollar industry selling fashion, props, vitamins, get aways designed to transform you into equanimous, beautiful and flexible beings. In my four years as a teacher I have taught aerial yoga, Boga (yoga on a stand up paddle board), Rock your Flow, Yoga sculpt, Yin Yoga, Restorative Yoga, Yoga for a healthy back, chair yoga, yoga for athletes, cardio-yoga, Yoga Nidra and more!

While many clients are looking to yoga as something that can help them manage stress, anxiety, stiffness, imbalance and mental focus the truth is, you are embracing something whose roots are calling you to reprioritize your values.

Self actualization (maturity) starts with self acceptance and self care. These concepts are not easy for the modern western mind which is trained to value worldly achievement, conquering  and constantly judging and criticizing others. 

New social mores, political unrest, new norms, new protocols, new ideas and social media gone wild make the future uncertain.  Uncertainty tends to be emotionally unsettling. Unsettled emotions tend to lead to many irrational conclusions and an existential tension. Not fun to feel in oneself or others.

Many are looking for ways to navigate stressful and anxious times. Yoga can teach simple awareness and bring a sense of sanity to your day.

To me, that puts you in the perfect place to consider yoga, meditation and breath work as tools for self-regulation and on the road to changing your priorities. 

In a word I like to think of yoga as a pause. A slowing down. An opportunity to introspect, reflect and contemplate for oneself - free of dogma. I believe the world needs a deeper thoughtfulness at this time. One way that can come is from letting go of worry and anxiety about worry and anxiety. Pausing will help you cultivate the knack of letting go.

I can recommend some great reading for the history of yoga. Better still I recommend you start or continue with your own practice. I can support you with many resources (free yoga videos and my 9 short guided meditation cd / mp3) as well as live stream classes.

Contact me for further information at anytime.

​Good luck!

I receive more and more requests from clients to explore meditation as a way to help them cope in these times of overwhelming social unrest, political polarization and a once in a century pandemic.

The two most common questions people ask me are:

• How do I quieten my mind?
• How do I find time to meditate?

Unfortunately “how do I” questions presuppose your know what meditation is. 

I often shock people when I say, “Meditation is not about quieting your mind. A busy mind is not an obstacle to meditation! Nor is it something you can do. It is something you are already doing!”

These two statements have helped hundreds of my students and clients take their  experience and understandings of meditations to a completely new level.

Being free of these two expectations of discovering a quiet mind and somehow forcing yourself to meditate creates a wide open space to follow the three “hows” or principles I offer. The three principles below help you fall back into the part of you that is already meditating.

• Be still
• Relax
• Notice what is happening in this moment

While the principles are simple I spend time describing how to be still, relaxed and aware. These terms are simple but often misunderstood because of the unconscious  habits to judge and analyze.

In a day and age where it has become harder to slow down, reflect and relax practicing meditation can help you. You do have time. you have time to watch Netflix, spend time on Facebook and drink red wine. The time is available for meditation. It's just not a priority.

Once you start to spend time on regular meditation the benefits start to reveal themselves. Scientific studies show that meditation positively impacts the parasympathetic nervous system (relaxation response), can lower blood pressure and help mental focus.

I have even designed a ten second meditation to help those convinced they cannot find time to slow down, relax and introspect.

If you’d like more experience and practice meditating you can 

• Join me on Saturday evenings, 
• Request a private class, 
• Download my 9 Short Guided Meditations mp3
• Purchase my 9 Short Guided Meditations CD at class or I can send it to you.
• Contact me with any questions.

​On my way to outdoor yoga this morning I was listening to a yoga podcast. The host of the show mentioned the word “effort”. He made a distinction that it is the effort in the practice that is the real reward - not the accomplishment.


This resonated with me, and hopefully with my students as I shared my thoughts with them.


As we practiced I emphasized the effort to find the sweet spot in the pose and sustain the effort without overextending or grimacing. The effort, while uncomfortable at times, opened the body and mind to receive the grace of release, let go and effortlessness.


Without effort, effortlessness and ease would be meaningless. I have discovered this retrospectively in meditation, pranayama (breathing), surfing, long distance running and cleaning the house.


The art of seeking the joy of effort in the midst of struggle is true yoga.


One of my yoga teachers would say “Give everything to your practice. What your practice gives you is none of your business.”


To read more about effort go to my blog.


Don’t forget you can try some shorter classes if you are busy. Here is my alive-stream and outdoor schedule for this week.


Be inspired.


Regards
Laurie

Yoga at home is safer, cheaper, more private and way more convenient.

As I write this article there were 54,000 new US coronavirus cases in the last 24 hours reported by Johns Hopkins University of Medicine! Despite all the recommendations and even mandates by government agencies meeting in public areas is putting tens of thousands at risk everyday. You are way safer at home from this kind of exposure. As soon as gyms and bars open the number of cases spikes.

​Many of my online students have reported they love the convenience of being able to connect in real time without the hassle of going out or leaving home. Live-stream yoga means no driving, no rushing home afterwards. You can stay in the relaxation generated by your practice and ease back into your life without the pack up and rush. You can do more and take up less time to get your yoga in.
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Online classes are way cheaper. I work from many studios and prices  range from $10-20 per class. Online I can offer a wide range of options designed for your budget. Currently a single stand alone class is $8. A set of ten classes is $65. That's only $6.50 per class. I am starting to offer memberships to my frequent flyers which will prices down even more.  For a $25/month ($280 p.a.) you have a free weekly yoga class bringing your yoga costs down as low as $5.38 / class. On the Home Yoga Premium membership you pay  $45 / month or $500 p.a. and have all my yoga classes free for the year.

Finally your privacy! My students are reporting they love being able to do what feels like a private lesson in their own home. People who have injuries or restrictions can adjust unselfconsciously and get the full benefits of their class. This is so important to know you can fully take care of your needs without worrying about the impact on the rest of the class. 

​This is what I believe is the true spirit of  yoga! Listening to your body and practicing in a non-violent, non-competitive way.
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